Top Ten Reasons You Can't Always Be Loved By the One You Love

To love and be loved is what all of us wanted. We all believe in love and the power it has to change things, people and situations. With love we see some light form darkness and we accept despite everything. But sometimes love don’t come and work the way we want it. No matter how badly we love someone, we can never have them. Here are the top 10 reasons why you can’t always be loved by the one you love:

1. That special person has no idea how you feel: Being too afraid of rejection keeps many people from declaring their love. The love interest in this case is clueless about your feelings and is not thinking of you as a possible love interest. You can see some of this situation in TV shows.

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2. They are unable to declare their feelings because it would be considered inappropriate by society: Ex-husbands and wives of a sister or brother are often off-limits based on an informal code of etiquette. That is expected to be followed without question. When such rules are broken, many other relationships are negatively impacted.

3. They don't find you attractive: As sad as the situation is, unrequited love is something most people will experience at some time in life. Hopefully this sort of rejection will not become a pattern. This dilemma conjures up images of The TV show, "The Bachelor", where women compete for the affection of one eligible bachelor.

4. Geographic barriers can present a formidable challenge for love, making it physically impossible to be loved by that special someone: Living in different geographic areas makes it hard to maintain or start a love affair. Distance may make the heart grow fonder in poetry and the movies, but it keeps many would-be lovers in the real world from getting involved romantically. Love may not be practical all the time, but for most people, long-distance relationships are not worth the pain.

5. A main reason that you can't always be loved by the object of your affection is because you are married and appear unavailable: Loving someone from afar can be both exciting and painful. Married men and women often get crushes on people outside of their marriage.

6. We've all met someone who is incapable of loving another person: If we are lucky, we will not fall hard for a person in this category. It's a sad fact of life that some people simply can't love anyone. This fact is often due to a terrible childhood or some other deep-seated reason that seems beyond that person's control.

7. Yet another reason the love you send to another is not returned is because you have hurt that person in such a way that they find it impossible to love you anymore: Infidelity, dishonesty or even criminal activity can make it impossible for a person to love you. Wounded people cannot always forgive a love interest for past indiscretions or failures.

8. It happens all too frequently that we fall for someone who is unavailable: They are married or already in a committed relationship. It is so easy to fall for someone who is off limits if you are around them a lot. By being out of our reach, that love interest is elevated to the status of a God or Goddess, forever a romantic diversion. This predicament is the stuff of movies and TV shows. Many TV shows tease the audience with the promise of romance between two main characters, since it make audiences tune-in, hoping that the two will finally get together.

9. Religious or ethical differences can make it impossible for certain individuals to fall in love: Deeply religious individuals often find they cannot connect with a person from a different faith, or with a different value system. Falling in love with a person, who is very different, can make it impossible for them to connect with you.

10. Last on this list of woe is a situation where the person you are in love with is not inclined to love you because of your gender: If you are a homosexual or a heterosexual in love with someone who is incapable of loving you back due to their sexual orientation, there is really no way around this roadblock. This predicament probably arises more than people care to admit. Sometimes falling in love just happens, however unreasonable, when two people are forced to interact closely at work.

About the author:
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KathleenKathleen Hubert, from Los Angeles California, is a blogger/freelancer who writes on a variety of different sites. She will be posting here at ..in love with me and life frequently now. She writes on social issues, love and relationships, politics, etc. To read  more of her work, check http://www.ledtv.org/

2 people read and said:

PRIYANKA DEY said...

Sometimes falling in Love..Just happens!

:)
Magical..!
Great post!
Cheers

Nivedita Thadani said...

ALL THESE DAYS I READ THE REASONS TO FALL IN LOVE..
BUT HERE ARE THE REASONS FOR WHY ONE CAN NOT LOVE...... :-)
I LIKED AND I AGREE WITH ALL THE POINTS.
BUT WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE, WHETHER YOU EXPRESS IT OR NOT, LOVE JUST HAPPENS, AND ITS REALLY PAINFUL THOUGHT THAT YOU CAN'T BE LOVED FOR SOME OR THE OTHER REASON.
MOST OF THE CASES ARE WITH POINT 5 AND 8, IS IT REALLY TRUE THAT ONE FALLS IN LOVE ONLY ONE TIME IN A LIFE???? LIFE IS TO LOVE, THEN WHY THESE BARRIERS?
( I KNOW I AM NOT A FAN OF SHOBHA DE:-))))) )